I have to admit I was nervous. Some of you know I did some "research" on a few things and that did help. While it didn't make me an expert, it did prevent me from getting lost and looking like I had never done this before. Kristen suspects nothing. I was worried about not being able to get it up and things like that. I was able to relax. We had dinner beforehand, and I did drink some wine so took the edge off. (I also made sure not to drink too much so I didn't end up with "whiskey dick".)
It was fun of course, and there were some new experiences for me. Some of them were pretty mundane. For instance, I have been sleeping in a bed big enough for two people for many, many years, but I always slept in the middle. This is the first time I slept on one side of a bed that size. It may seem silly and mundane to you, but its was new to me.
I was expecting some angels to come down from Heaven after this, but that didn't happen from the way many people claim getting laid is so important to being taken seriously. The mysteries of the universe weren't revealed to me. It wouldn't have to have been all of them, just a few would have been enough. We will see tomorrow if I get a raise at work. Lots of people claim that virginity loss is required to have real, high paying jobs. Given that I was pulling down a massive salary before losing my virginity, I'm expecting that tomorrow I will start earning a salary of at least $250,000 a year. (Given my current salary, it has to be raised to at least a quarter of a million dollars for those guys to be right.) If this doesn't happen tomorrow, then you guys can make it correct by sending me money. Since this is a one time payment, all you guys who believe that financial success and sexual/relationship success are tied together, must send me at least half a million dollars ($500,000) total between all of you before I will admit you're right.
One thing this experiment has shown me so far is that there was no "improvement" involved. I have read plenty from people who claim that going from not getting laid to getting laid means that you have "improved" yourself in some nebulous way. It's nebulous since self improvement in all other cases is clearly objective. Regardless, I didn't change myself in this experiment. I didn't "improve" myself in any way.
One thing this experiment has shown me so far is that there was no "improvement" involved. I have read plenty from people who claim that going from not getting laid to getting laid means that you have "improved" yourself in some nebulous way. It's nebulous since self improvement in all other cases is clearly objective. Regardless, I didn't change myself in this experiment. I didn't "improve" myself in any way.
Kristen made me breakfast this morning, and when I say made breakfast I mean actually made breakfast (specifically omelettes). I take this to mean I must have done at least a halfway decent job in nailing her since I would assume that women don't make breakfast for guys who failed to satisfy them in bed the previous night.
Even now after having sex, there is still a great deal I'm still feeling out and getting comfortable with. I don't have a good grasp of just how sexually aggressive I should be. There is a lot to be said for turning a woman's expectations that you will be sexually aggressive as soon as possible on its ear and making her beg for it instead. Sofia at GirlGame said that being chased sexually gives women a position of power. It seems like a good idea to deny that power.
I still amazed at how easy so much of this was. Of course, the idea that this would be like getting blood from a stone has not left my mind yet, so compared to that anything is "easy". I am also noticing something along the lines of all I have to do is tell Kristen (or Rachel) that I want something and they deliver. Is that part of being dominant and them being submissive? I really don't know (yet). Like I said, I still feeling my way around so much of this.
I know many of my haters are really pissed now since they can't call me a loser virgin anymore. I expect some invention from them to come up with ideas to work around this problem. I look forward to reading the nonsense they come up with.
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Did the STD testing include Herpes? Routine STD screenings often don't include that.
@Thursday
Yes it did. I made sure of that. I know enough to be paranoid about these things. Like I said, I also saw the actual results. I didn't even have to ask for that.
So you had an... anti-climax?
@Bhetti
Depending on your perspective I had both the climax and the anti-climax.
I'm still hoping for that quarter of a million dollar salary when I go to work tomorrow.
Dude...
Good work.
My hat is off to you.
On sex, I agree with the occultist Aleister Crowley: Lead the sex life that makes you think about sex the least. For most people, losing their virginity is key to that.
I think "Small penis" or for you reptile aliens, a small probe will be what the say to shame you now.
Simply put, those angels aren't coming.
But you already knew that, didn't you?
I had similar jeerings growing up about this, driving, and drinking alchohol.
All of them are NICE, I suppose, but they didn't change my life much. Driving made me more independent, but I already networked successfully that if I needed a ride anywhere, anytime, I could get it.
Alcohol just fills my mental clockwork with molasses, which makes me feel frustrated.
It doesn't matter what they think after this, only that you know that anything so trivial could "change your life", "teach you the secrets of the universe", or "make angels come down from on high" is probably not going to.
Actually, I think this experience HAS done this for some, but they are very simple creatures. Don't get me wrong, I've very simple in terms of needs as well, but they don't go beyond their own senses to find epiphanic feelings.
Pmaft dude what the hell is this "I must have done at least a halfway decent job"??????? I know you did a much better job than that. Your ladyfriend had the best sex of her life like multiple orgasm good.
Pmaft dude damn right your ladyfriend gives you anything you want. Dude you're superior to her and to all other men. She understands all there is for her is to submit to you like a good girl should.
DJ
I'm glad it was fun times!
Though you're a manwhore for not being married to her. To be the very example and height of virtuous celibacy -- giving all these young men a fine, successful example to aspire to worthy of any man of the cloth -- and then to betray it after holding out so long.
Mr. Tech, how could you?
[can't stop the bad jokes. Well, I can. But I'm more amused keeping at it.]
"I must have done at least a halfway decent job"
I'm glad on one hand there's not a lot of detail: it would make me feel too much of a voyeur.
Anyway, re: sexual agression. I think within Game context just do what's fun for you now and experiment, whatever takes your fancy. Learn what you enjoy. Each man has to figure out trial/error what actually works for him and what he likes to do, right?
@Bhetti
I know you're being funny, and I appreciate your humor but there are a few people who really do feel that way. I guess that's why it's so funny.
Early on, I decided not to get into details except when necessary. It's best for all of us, and it helps protect my privacy. Beyond that I'm sure you appreciated my mundane examples of sleeping in one half of a bed instead of the middle.
When it comes to just how sexually aggressive I should be you're right. This is just going to take time to figure out.
I know you're being funny, and I appreciate your humor but there are a few people who really do feel that way. I guess that's why it's so funny.
Ah, don't injure me by any pretence of amusement.
By the way, here's your angel coming down from heaven.
Just one, Mr. Tech, sorry.
Kristen made me breakfast this morning, and when I say made breakfast I mean actually made breakfast (specifically omelettes
*gives anti fem a pat on the back and a pound*
go ahead sweet draws. if she made you breakfast you must've done it pretty darn good. I hate to hear what you'll have women doing after you've done the deed 20+ times.
There is a small part of me that cries for your lost purity thought. I liked that sweet innocence.
When it comes to just how sexually aggressive I should be you're right. This is just going to take time to figure out.
different women like different thing. let her be your guide.
"go ahead sweet draws. if she made you breakfast you must've done it pretty darn good. I hate to hear what you'll have women doing after you've done the deed 20+ times.
There is a small part of me that cries for your lost purity though. I liked that sweet innocence."
Me too Chic.
I don't think he feels much different. (Except a little happier and curious, with all these new little things to explore.) He said he's not going to turn into a pickup artist.
Come on, guys. The man's too much an adult for being sweetly innocent. Barring waiting for marriage (which is an insane option for Mr. Tech and he doesn't seem to regard 'purity' as 'virginity'), it's great he allowed himself to explore the pleasure and pains of enjoying a woman. The impression I get was the only reason he didn't was because he couldn't be bothered after difficulty before: it seemed too much trouble for what it was worth. All this exploration can only be a good thing for him, getting him first hand and intimate experience with a woman.
I'm seeing him have long-term girlfriends for the forseeable future, but not much commitment since he likes being independent and definitely doesn't like the idea of a woman having power over him.
Just don't break any hearts, Mr. Tech, including yours.
I think the better part of this experiment is finding out that women aren't as elusive as you originally thought. Maybe you and your bros can do without sexbots and women slaggin' blogs after all.
and another thing...
Why are you already thinking about the next woman you're going to be with??? I been at it for 4 years and I only have two so are you batting for 2 in 2 weeks.
Don't get yourself a bad reputation youngman.
*chic noir hugs anti-fem tighlty and waves finger*
@kathy- good to know I'm not alone.
@bhetti- you should know me by now. I like sweet men that have a bit of innocence about them(who are also good looking).
When I think of losing innocence, I'm thinking of the type of experience that means you're disillusioned with the world or humanity, viewing life in harsh terms. Not absolute sexual experience.
If anything, some small part of innocence could be concievably rediscovered.
Congrats, tech.
It's interesting how women see virgins as "cute" and "innocent" (unfuckable) until they've done the deed, despite all evidence to the contrary. Frankly, I never got that impression, nor did I suspect virginal status until you talked about it.
First, I'll echo what keith (lead the life that makes you think about sex the least) and what Indomitable (didn't know you were a virgin until you brought it up) said.
As a brother who encourages others to lead upright lives, I see this event as something less than ideal. I wouldn't presume to lecture or preach uninvited here, in this forum in which I am a guest. Rather, I am simply expressing an overall sense of sadness as I read this account.
I am glad however at seeing the notion debunked that a man having sex with a woman is the end-all, be-all and/or definer of masculinity. It is hardly that, no matter what the Code Pink-shaming fembots say (Tally is probably correct that, having lost the ability to impugn your masculinity by mocking your virginity, they'll probably accuse you of having a short pitot tube or low manifold pressure--euphemisms for having a small dick--next). Even the animals do it, so it can't be that earth-shaking, and being a man is so much more than having bedded a woman.
Which you have observed wasn't all that difficult to do anyway, since they give it away so easily these days as a way to prove their womanhood.
Thus, while I contend that sex is a cementing bond designed for our pleasure, witnessing the process of it being knocked off a pedestal is a good thing I think.
I am truly curious: now, having used game to bed Kristen, how applicable will game be in maintaining this relationship? I think that some elements of game serve to strengthen a marriage/relationship. I wonder if you will find this to be true or false in your own experience...
Indomitable Thoughts: "It's interesting how women see virgins as "cute" and "innocent" (unfuckable) until they've done the deed, despite all evidence to the contrary. Frankly, I never got that impression, nor did I suspect virginal status until you talked about it."
You hit the nail on the head mate, both Chic Noir and Kathy have shown an example of how women can be read like a book (not saying men can't be but women are supposed to be such mystical and complex creatures)
PM/AFT, I think that when it is said that one improves when they get laid, the sexual act is confused with the understanding of social dynamics and the non-mangina mgtow/game or masculine mindset that gets one to the 'home run'. So you have not changed in the sense that you're suddenly a wise sage because you sowed your oats, however it will increase your confidence with women and sex will get better the more you do it.
In short, you already had the wisdom before sleeping with Kristen, the act of sex was merely one small benefit of many due to your masculine wisdom....but you knew that already, eh.
Congrats dude!
Anonymous November 25, 2009 2:40 PM
"I think the better part of this experiment is finding out that women aren't as elusive as you originally thought. Maybe you and your bros can do without sexbots and women slaggin' blogs after all."
Oh...the shaming language of it all!
Yes PM/AFT, all our blogs, websites and forums are just slaggin' the bytches off coz we havent managed to put our shlongs in one of those elusive wet holes.
Well mate, since you got a shag you have absolutely no reason to take issue with women anymore...you can now close your blog.
LMFAO!
Elusive Wapiti: "As a brother who encourages others to lead upright lives, I see this event as something less than ideal. I wouldn't presume to lecture or preach uninvited here, in this forum in which I am a guest. Rather, I am simply expressing an overall sense of sadness as I read this account.
I am glad however at seeing the notion debunked that a man having sex with a woman is the end-all, be-all and/or definer of masculinity. It is hardly that, no matter what the Code Pink-shaming fembots say (Tally is probably correct that, having lost the ability to impugn your masculinity by mocking your virginity, they'll probably accuse you of having a short pitot tube or low manifold pressure--euphemisms for having a small dick--next). Even the animals do it, so it can't be that earth-shaking, and being a man is so much more than having bedded a woman.
Which you have observed wasn't all that difficult to do anyway, since they give it away so easily these days as a way to prove their womanhood.
Thus, while I contend that sex is a cementing bond designed for our pleasure, witnessing the process of it being knocked off a pedestal is a good thing I think"
A well thought out response EW. My thoughts were along similar lines, just couldn't articulate them as well as you. I also (as a woman) did not want to give the wrong impression and come across as judgemental, because that was not my intention.
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